DORIS LESSING, THE GOLDEN NOTEBOOK 1962...
THERE ARE SEVERAL DIFFERENT SORTS OF CLITORAL ORGASMS AND THEY ARE MORE POWERFUL[A MALE WORD] THAN THE VAGINAL ORGASM.
THERE CAN BE A THOUSAND THRILLS, SENSATIONS ETC., BUT THERE IS ONLY ONE REAL FEMALE ORGASM AND THAT IS WHEN A MAN FROM HIS WHOLE NEED AND DESIRE TAKES A WOMAN AND WANTS ALL HER RESPONSE...
BUT WHEN SHE TOLD HIM SHE HAD NEVER EXPERIENCED WHAT SHE HAD INSISTED ON CALLING 'A REAL ORGASM' TO ANYTHING LIKE THE SAME DEPTH BEFORE HIM, HE INVOLUNTARILY FROWNED AND REMARKED...
'DO YOU KNOW THERE ARE EMINENT PHYSIOLOGISTS WHO SAY WOMEN HAVE NO PHYSICAL BASIS FOR VAGINAL ORGASM?
'THEY DON'T KNOW MUCH, DO THEY'
THE ''''SCRIMMAGE OF APPETITE
IS EVERYWHERE'''''- DELMORE SCHWARTZ
THE HIP WARS...
SUCKING
BREASTS INTO
HIPS
IN DENIAL FORTRESSINGS
ENMESHED DRINKS AND BLINKS
IN VAGUS TEMPOS
OF BLOCKED
FOR VANITY
AS FEAR EATS THE SOUL...
FOR ONE
CANNOT REPAIR CONTROL
THE INNER CHILD
ONLY DREAMS IT IS AWAKE...
..THE HUNGRY GHOSTS RULE THE CASTLES OF ILLUSION.
A CHANGE IN DEPICTION OF 'MALE SEXUALITY' IN MEDIATIONS WITH WOMEN ASSERTIONS IN PAST GENERATION...
WEIGHT GAIN FOR WOMEN RESEARCH NYT 1.05.10
Study Says Women With Mate Get Heavier
Published: January 4, 2010
It is widely known that women tend to gain weight after giving birth, but now a large study has found evidence that even among childless women, those who live with a mate put on more pounds than those who live without one.
Overweight...The differences, the scientists found, were stark.
After adjusting for other variables, the 10-year weight gain for an average 140-pound woman was 20 pounds if she had a baby and a partner, 15 if she had a partner but no baby, and only 11 pounds if she was childless with no partner. The number of women with a baby but no partner was too small to draw statistically significant conclusions.
There is no reason to believe that having a partner causes metabolic changes, so the weight gain among childless women with partners was almost surely caused by altered behavior. Moreover, there was a steady weight gain among all women over the 10 years of the study.
This does not explain the still larger weight gain in women who became pregnant. The lead author, Annette J. Dobson, a professor of biostatistics at the University of Queensland in Australia, suggested that physiological changes might be at work.
“Women’s bodies may adjust to the increased weight associated with having a baby,” Dr. Dobson said. “There may be a metabolic adjustment that goes on when women are pregnant that is hard to reverse. This would be more consistent with our findings than any other explanation.”
The study covered more than 6,000 Australian women over a 10-year period ending in 2006.
At the start, the women ranged in age from 18 to 23. Each woman periodically completed a survey with more than 300 questions about weight and height, age, level of education, physical activity, smoking status, alcohol consumption, medications used and a wide range of other health and health care issues.
By the end of the study, published in the January issue of The American Journal of Preventive Medicine, more than half the women had college degrees, about three-quarters had partners and half had had at least one baby. Almost all of the weight gain happened with the first baby; subsequent births had little effect.
Also by the end of the study period, there were fewer smokers and risky drinkers than at the beginning, more women who exercised less and a larger proportion without paid employment.
But even after adjusting for all of these factors and more, the differences in weight gain among women with and without babies, and among women with and without partners, remained.
Despite the study’s limitations — weight was self-reported, for example, and the sample size diminished over time because people dropped out — other experts found the results valuable.
“It’s interesting and brings out some important points,” said Maureen A. Murtaugh, an associate professor of epidemiology at the University of Utah who has published widely on weight gain in women. Perhaps, she suggested, a more active social life may help explain why women with partners gain more weight.
“Think of going to a restaurant,” Dr. Murtaugh said. “They serve a 6-foot man the same amount as they serve me, even though I’m 5 feet 5 inches and 60 pounds lighter.”
The study included only women, but the researchers cited one earlier study that showed an increase in obesity among men who had children, adding further evidence that social and behavioral factors are part of the explanation.
Dr. Dobson said the finding of weight gain among all the women, with families or without, was troubling.
“This is a general health concern,” she said. “Getting married or moving in with a partner and having a baby are events that trigger even further weight gain. “From a prevention point of view, one can look at these as particular times when women need to be especially careful.”
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NOTES
'WHAT IS INCOMPLETE FROM THE PAST WE TEND TO RECREATE' -FREUD....
IT IS 'WANTING TO BE WANTED IN STRATEGIES OF DESIRE-CONTROL THAT IS POWER GREATER THAN LOVE...IT IS TENDENCY...NESTING...HOLDING AND ZONING'
WAITING IN WANTING...INERTIA OF PATTERN...LEVERAGING IN MEDIATION AND ENDURANCE COPING VS. THRIVE AND COMING FORTH IN VITALITY ...SPONTANEITY PLEASURE...
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THE BAD WIFE...
SHE KNEW WHAT SHE DID...SHE KNEW HE KNEW THAT SHE HAD NOT BEEN THERE WHEN SHE COULD HAVE...SHE KNEW SHE HAD GONE BEYOND UNAVAILABILITY, WITHDRAWAL, FLIGHT AND THE SAFENESS OF 'YIN'...THE 'YIN' SPACE OF CHARGED DISTANCING AND WATCHING...THE 'YIN' SPACE OF GREAT HUNGER IN 'WANTING TO BE WANTED' AND SOMEHOW OVERTHROWING THE ECHOES OF THE INNER GATE OF DEATH DEEP IN THE PERINEUM...THE DEADENED AND WITHHELD PLACE OF RAGE AGAINST THE BETRAYALS THAT HAD BEEN DONE TO HER AND THE BETRAYALS OF HER REALNESS SHE DID IN MEDIATIONS AND FILTRATIONS TO 'GET NEEDS MET'...
SHE KNEW WHAT SHE DID...IN THE SHADOWS ...THE WOMAN IN THE DARK ROOM
WAITED
IN THE RHYTHMS OF DAYLIGHT AND USED 'WHATEVER' TO FOSTER ORBITS OF RELATIONS THAT PROVIDED 'INTENSITY-DENSITY' MEANS OF COUNTERING THE DEADNESS OF THE DEEP 'YIN'...
FOR IT WAS NOT THE 'STILLNESS' OF SPIRIT AND HEALTH BUT THE CONTROL OF RESONANCE AND RELATIONS...
IT WAS POWER GREATER THAN LOVE AS SHE STRUGGLED TO OVERCOME ROOT FEELINGS OF VIOLENCE AND BETRAYALS THAT TOLD HER SHE WOULD NEVER BE LOVED ENOUGH...SHE ACHED FOR THE LOVE YET INCREASINGLY DISCOVERED THE NECESSITY OF BUILDING NEW ILLUSIONS TO MEDIATE THE 'MYTHOLOGY' OF HER FAMILY HISTORY AND THE DESTRUCTIVENESS OF THEIR FORTRESSINGS MASKED IN 'BELIEF-FAITH' IDEOLOGY STRUCTURES...
SHE KNEW WHAT SHE DID...
SHE KNEW THE DIFFERENCES IN MANIPULATIVENESS, DISAPPOINTMENTS AND CONTROLS AS BEHAVIORS OF NOT BEING SEEN...NOT HAVING ANYONE MEET HER IN REALISM OF EMOTIONALITY...THE VERSION OF WHO SHE WANTED YOU TO SEE...THE IDEALIZED AS PORTRAYED IN THE IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT OF TIMES ENCOUNTERED AND THE GAP OF REALITY OF THE FULLNESS OF HER STRUGGLES TO BE LOVED AS IS...
THE CONTROL OF OUTCOMES WAS NOT POSSIBLE...
FOR SHE SAW HER WOUNDS AND LACK AND EXPRESSED THEM KNOWING THEIR RECURRENCE AND SOUGHT ACCEPANCE..TO STILL BE LOVED...
AND HE LOVED HER FOR WHO SHE IS YET HE KNEW HE WAS NOT AS SHE ENVISIONED...THE SHARED 'YIN' MAGNETIC FIELD SEXUALITY' AFFORDED OPPORTUNITY IN HEALINGS AND GROWTH YET IT WAS 'YANG' STRENGTH IN FULLNESS AS OPPOSITES THAT SEEMED UNATTAINABLE...FOR RHYTHMS OF YIN TO YIN IN COUNTERING THE 'DEEP DEADNESS OF THE BOTTOM' GATE OF DEATH WAS A SOURCE OF SOMEONE BEING THERE TO SHARE AND MOVE...A 'TEMPORARY CURE' FOR THE LONELINESS AND INCOMPLETED...
REALNESS WAS EVOLVING INTO ENCOUNTER...FOR HIS GROWTH THROUGH HIS DAMAGES MOVED IN YIN DEPTHS WITH A RARENESS TO BECOME THE YANG THAT FEW MEN ACHIEVE...FOR THE 'YANG' OF LIFE FORCE IS DIRECTION AND PROMETHIAN...IT IS ALIVENESS TO STEAM AND INSPIRE AGAINST THE YIN CURRENTS OF MOSTLY WATERS OF UNCONSCIOUSNESS...
TO ONENESS
IN CREATIVE INTEGRITY...
HEART CENTERING IN KNOWING WHAT ONE HAS DONE...TO BREATHE THROUGH GUILT, SHAMES AND KINWEB OPPRESSIONS THAT COMPEL DECISIONS TO AVOID EXPOSURE...
ACTIONS OF COURAGE BEYOND WEBBED MODES OF REACTIVITY AND THE DANCES OF 'ACCEPTABLE' VERSIONS OF THAT'S WHO SHE IS...
SO SHE INVESTS IN THE LOSSES AS CONSTRUCTIONS IN INERTIA...
SHE MOVES IN FAMILIARITY AND SEEKS TO WIN THE THEMES THIS TIME...
TO ENDURE IN A DISTANCE AS THE VULNERABILITY FOR REAL KNOWLEDGE AND GROWTH IS NOT YIN BUT THE WILL OF YANG...EXPOSURE, STANDING ON ONE'S OWN...SPEAKING TRUTH TO THOSE WHO WOULD SUPPRESS AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF 'YIN' SILENCES AND NON CONFLICT/CO0NTRADICTION...
IT IS GETTING OUT OF THE SELF-RECRIMINATIONS OF THE 'BAD WIFE' AND THE BLACK SHEEP INTO AN ASSERTION OF IDENTITY.........TRUTH OF URGENCY OUT OF FALSE ANGST MEDIATIONS AND OVERLOAD RELEASES...
AWARENESS OF POWER GREATER THAN LOVE IN CONTROLLINGS OF EXTREME YIN OR EXTREME YANG...
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